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Arrogance vs Confidence…PFFFF…

Have you ever been called arrogant? Have you ever been on a wild high of continual success and feeling like there is no turning back? The feeling of just going to be good times from here on out?

I, like everyone else, have my good days and my bad days. I also have my streaks and my ruts. The question is:

How do people perceive you when you are on a high, a winning streak that is flowing and no one can touch you?

My experience that I will share with you comes from a networking event where someone told me that I was “Arrogant” (this happens often especially with girls).  I almost stuttered in my response but not because I was offended but because I didn’t know why the person would through that out. What possible reasoning would a person have to make such a remark when they don’t even know the other person they just met?

As I started to do a memory dump of all the possible reasons, I stopped myself and responded with… its confidence… smiled and continued with… I do things right…

How can someone believe that someone else is arrogant without getting to know them firs? Is this a loss opportunity? I think so! Understanding that the two can be confused is one thing, not trying to learn the difference is another thing, which I conveniently call ignorance.

Let’s face it. Running a marathon is fun and games until you start doing well in it. Then you start to boast about how awesome it is and once you get committed you boast about how you have become so good at it and maybe it is time for the iron man. You start to give advice and spew confidence of all the right things you have done to improve.

Is this arrogance?  I think not!

Best example I can provide is with the resent success of Ray Lewis and the Baltimore Ravens. Look at the success this man has had. He pushed and pushed his team to victory.

Moral of the story is… there is a difference between the two. If you are confident don’t shy away when someone calls you arrogant. There is a list of things we can say to these people who assume you are arrogant. Fact is, confidence will prevail in how you conduct yourself.

Sanity? You have some??

Sanity? I have some…

Today marks the 28th of January and as every year I start planning for the year objectively and logically. I start looking at my business in a non biased way and align my vision to my goals, both the long term and short term. Sometimes it is fun and others it is a challenge, sanity you ask? Sanity comes in the process, where the process isn’t an hour nor a day but several days and really a roller coaster ride that has lasted over this past month.

So where does sanity come into play?

Well, that’s the thought that crossed my mind when I looked back at some moves I made this past year. Some risks I took and others I didn’t take.

So I ask:

Do you take the time to think about the risks of 2012?

Many people don’t look back. Many strive to avoid looking at mistakes as well as the wins. I believe that part of it comes from all this positive talk in social media and also from the day to day activities that don’t give us the time to reflect.
So, I decided to make a list of the things I do to analyze and gather my thoughts for the future. It is something that has worked over the years and I thought I would share it!

The Process:

1. Review the goals you set for 2012
2. List the wins of 2012
3. List the losses of 2012
4. Organize the why things happened
5. Organize the why you want or don’t want things to happen again
6. Create your top ten
7. Paste the list on your white board and read it every day

Why this process?

It is logical and it is beneficial to see everything as a timeline. We need to focus on the wins as we do on the losses. We need to become aware of the actions we took so we either repeat them or avoid them in the future.
Making the new goals for 2013 becomes easier once we are able to see the past and focus on making it in the following year. If you follow a process (doesn’t need to be mine) you are able to organize your thoughts and maintain calmness and your sanity. As small business owners, we are aware of the psychological torment that can accompany an individual running a business. Setting up procedures like this brings one back to level ground where decisions can be made without emotional attachments!

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PS. If you are wondering why I am sending this at the end of January… well I procrastinate… plus, I don’t want you to take this as a new year’s resolution… Now that the ugly and slow January is out of the way start planning!

Believe me … or DON’T

I am running a marathon… or at least I think.. last few months now… is it will or hope? The question I often ask myself!

I am actually running a marathon in the arctic, barefoot and shirtless.  When starting a new venture you analyze all and take risks… risks I took.

Small business is all about risk. Whether you quit your job to start a venture… or you build on it over time… to take the plunge, one thing is for certain… you made a choice and now you need to keep going!

The usual trip of an entrepreneur starts with a dream. Starts with a dream that aims to make things better! As things progress, one begins to think that all is good and success is on the way. As the wheal starts to role, one begins to gain great confidence only to be shut down with reality a short while later.

What happens? What turns the tide from happiness to disparity?

Reality! Yes, reality hits and we realize that the business world was not as we thought it would be. All the sudden success isn’t as promised (as we thought) nor as we expected.  We are now chasing a dream and not a goal. The key word here is goal. People get stuck in an adventure hoping that all goes well but when do we know to go on or quit?

I like to think that this is the point we start analyzing where we are at. Can we figure it out or do we need help? Can we keep going or should we quit? The questions are there but do we have an answer…

The point that we need is to stop and think, and say yes, we need a break from reality, we need a break from fakeness… we need a chance at a new beginning.  This is the point where we stop, no thinking, not actions, just being still.

Stillness is the key to my success. I absorb all my emotions (negative and positive) and allow them to settle down. Usually this is during my coffee break! I create a mind map of things that need to be done to change the tide and jump on the first idea that I think will bring me success.  This is the stage where we reset and align our actions with the goals!

Why does it work for me?

It works for one reason… when you have no emotion in an idea you have no biased opinion… you are using your mind, your knowledge and experience.

My next article will be all about my “NIKOS strategy”; the third person approach! Conveniently the cure to regret!

Ready to Connect? Networking Events in KW!

Do you network and at that how much time do you spend networking. When people ask me about it, I tell them how much time I spend and they look at me like I’m crazy! Am I?  Well no, I am not. My business is networking and as such I do it to the tee. I often coach clients on networking; teaching them the ins and outs of networking, tricks and tips, and so on.

I will be writing a full blog about networking, but in the mean time here are several events happening in KW.

SBCN Connect  Tuesday Nov 13 2012 – 7:00pm to 10:00pm The Honest Lawyer

This event always shows results and its one to come to. It is great to connect with people and have a social drink, in a social setting, where peoples real personalities come out!

Ribbon Cutting Ceremony with Mayor Doug Craig at 5:00 pm! 284 Water Street North, Cambridge

Grand Openings are always great! Especially if it involves the mayor and especially if we are supporting our community!

Canadian Networking, Wednesday, November 14th, 6-9 pm at Conestoga Place on Manitou Drive.

If you haven’t been to one of these events, please check it out! You always bump into some grate people!

2012 Business Expo Wednesday, November 14, 2012 4:00 PM – 7:00 PM Bingemans

Of course this is the event of events for the chambers.  175 business showcasing their businesses… it’s a networkers heaven!

SBCN Monthly Networking Wednesday, November 21, 2012 – 7:00pm to 9:00pm Small Business center City Hall

SBCN is a great place to come and network. The relationships built here are worth keeping. Why? It’s a venue that promotes growth for all small businesses… have you met the OJ’s?

7th Annual Warm Hearts of Affrica Fundraising Party, Saturday November 24, 2012  8-12pm The Canadian Clay and Glass Gallery

This year’s event will be by far the most unique yet! 60’s Mad Men theme, fashion show, live entertainment courtesy of Chive Tonic, food and a wide variety of silent and live auction items! Tickets are now available at www.warmheartsofafrica.com.

Chamber young professionals, November 27th 5.30 – 730 pm Borealis Grillhouse and Pub

Once a month it’s nice to go meet young talent. Re-energize yourself and see what happening!

Rogers Business After 5 – December Wednesday, December 05, 2012  5:00 PM – 7:00 PM  Bingemans

Your monthly meet up with the chamber. Meet the businesses that are involved in the chamber.

SBCN Christmas Social Monday, December 10, 2012 – 7:00pm to 11:00pm The Honest Lawyer

Simply a great place to be… For us who don’t have a Christmas party!!!!

Movember Events: http://www.movemberkw.com/

Finally, there are about 10 events on the website for the remainder of MOVEMBER!!! Come out and meet a random group of people who are business, entrepreneurs, professionals, and just plain supporters for an awesome cause!

Having a tough time networking? Ask me for tips!!! This is what I do!

SBCN 15 Minute Educational Series

SBCN offers a 15 minute Educational Series at the beginning of every monthly meeting.  The educational series allows for a short introduction into a subject that gives its members a new look into business topics that will help their businesses grow.  Our intent is to touch up on subjects such as idea conception, realization, planning, and implementation into existing business models.  From sales to practical business practices that are sometimes avoided by small business owners, fundamentals can be re-introduced into these businesses.  With key points being drawn up to entertain the creative mind, the goal is to move the wheels of successful business development for all our members.

Taking up this post interested me from the start, but boy is it ever more entertaining to create a 15 minute presentation on topics I can talk all day!  I appreciate the opportunity to share the knowledge I have gained through my experiences and welcome the opportunity to shine for the SBCN!